Friday, January 8, 2016

Your Life, Your Style

Happy New Year Guys!!!

I've been busy with school and work but I really miss all of you! Over the past year, I have been working in the retail industry and learned a lot about fashion. You know ladies always have a passion for fashion! Well, I wanted to let my ladies know not to be shy to try something new. I never wore a hat like this before but was thrilled to try something new. I think it looks nice, do you? Never be ashamed to try something new because you might just like it. Honestly, we don't even need to spend that much money to look nice; a simple new hair style you can probably do yourself can not only make a difference with your personal style, but will also give you more confidence in yourself and the inner beauty you are expressing with your creativity.

Gentlemen, I'm not sure if all of you are aware but beige goes a long way. I love beige pants because it goes with so many different colors. You can simply put a pair of beige pants you might've not thought you had anything to go with on along with a shirt you thought you had nothing to go with and make an entire new style! Personally, I just discovered this awesome combination. Also, maybe changing your mustache or giving yourself a nice shape-up could make all the difference in your overall appearance. We love sharp men! The point is that you can easily change your fashion sense with things in your closet and don't have to spend a dime. Just be creative and color coordinated, of course. If you question yourself about the style, try it on! No one will see..only you and there is no better judge than you judging yourself! When you do find that perfect outfit in your closet you will feel great knowing you were able to try something new and it was well worth the work.
Try it out ladies and gentleman! I hope these suggestions are helpful and bring you the same joy and confidence it brought me! I'll be back on here more often with more updates and suggestions and I can't wait to share the New Year with you guys!

Clydia Santamaria

Sunday, August 9, 2015

Pierced

Its easy to forget where everything began,
To stare into the unknown and yearn it,
To hold your dreams tight against your heart,
To do the right thing when its easier not to,
To look at the twinkling stars above and watch the time fly,
Without any concept of time or space,
Lost in the past yet hoping for the future,
You can't see past the hidden envy under devious smiles,
Or the sadness beneath those dark eyes,
Windows to the soul,
Actions always speak louder than words,
Good or Bad,
Many silent tears have been shed while reality slips through our fingers,
Alone, holding on to embellished dreams that we know will never come true,
Deserted and lifeless,
The rose lays there still yearning for life as death slowly approaches,
The sun shines bright and magnificent as if to shine life into the very veins,
But forgetting the darkness lingering in the background is always watching,
Waiting for an opportunity to strike,
Throbbing heart, why do you hurt so,
Pierced like a needle,
Words may never physically hurt but the heart is stabbed and pierced into the soul,
What is a body without a soul,
What is a soul without a body,
They can't exist without each other,
Yet can't coexist,
Such interesting concepts of the universe,
Why does pain cut so deep but we return for more,
The sadness and anger are bundled in our fists, yet we let it go for more pain,
The waves flow in silence into the abyss,
No sign of land, just the deep, dark sea.

Sunday, June 7, 2015

How to Avoid Conflict With Your Man

A real man takes responsibility for his actions. Yes, I said it! Ladies please do acknowledge that your man does have feelings. Apparently, women can deal with conflict better than men can so instead of acknowledging they are wrong, they will place the blame on you though inside they feel guilty about what they have done wrong. If you separate yourself from reality, how can you be blamed for it? It's called the  compartmentalization technique and its what men use to take the blame off themselves. A common method used for cheating in all actuality though they can use it for other situations. Based on my research, the best way to deal with this issue is to leave it alone before things go over board. I am a very emotional person and I tend to go overboard in a heartbeat when my man refuses to take responsibility. I'm human too! But I've noticed that when I'm wrong, I'm actually capable of dealing with it better than he does and learning from my mistakes. Sadly I realized after I flipped out that flipping out wasn't the right thing to do in the first place. There are two things to do in this situation. The first choice is to avoid conflict altogether. If he says sorry, leave it alone. If you act out he will more than likely just do it again. If you don't fight with him there won't be any thing to fight over if it's a small situation. Give him space he will come around eventually. The second choice is if the issues are on a larger scale and you have tried the first option and it was unsuccessful, you may have to break up. I hate to say this but it's the truth. I'm not saying to let him trample over you with your first option but if you are trying to get through to him, LEAVE HIM ALONE! He is not going to listen to you and things will escalate quickly. The second option is to keep your dignity. You can not let anyone destroy your dignity because it's yours. If you are trying the first option and it always fails, it's either going to get worst or you will have to sacrifice your pride and dignity in order to get along. I don't suggest doing that because it leads to low self-esteem, depression, and puts you in a deep, dark place that's hard to climb out of. Men are more emotional than women though they pretend that they aren't. It's scientifically proven! Google it if you like. Before you have another episode, stop and think before letting it all out. Married women have tried this strategy and it is proven to work and I hope it works for you too. I'll definitely keep my own advice in mind too next time I have a PMS attack. Scouts Honor! 
Have a Blessed Day Everyone!
Clydia Santamaria

Saturday, June 6, 2015

Communication is the Key to a Successful Relationship

Whether you are in a relationship or not, communication is essential to any relationship. I am fully aware that no one's relationship is perfect but the goal is to get as close to it as possible. How can you have a relationship without any communication? It's impossible! If you are single, be mindful that before you do decide to get into a relationship, to have communication as a key principle as well as trust and honesty. It will be very difficult to have a relationship where whatever one person says goes though this is customary in certain cultures. Those who are capable of participating in communication should certainly take advantage of this since many men and women aren't allowed to do so. Listening to your significant other is the first step. How can you understand what your  significant other is trying to explain if you aren't listening and vice versa? Next step is to talk to each other and explain how both of you feel about the issue or topic and find a way to solve it. Communication is key to all relationships. So when your wife is telling you she's the boss, remind her that communication is vital and is the true essence of your relationship. 🌹🌺🌷

Clydia Santamaria

Wednesday, June 3, 2015

Be Aware of the People Around You

Hey guys! Hope you are having a wonderful day!
Today I'd like to discuss how to become aware of the people that you allow in your life and how they can effect you. I know you have heard of the saying, "You are what you are around". The fact of the matter is that this statement hits the nail on the head. It is proven that your closes five friends that you affilate yourself with will sum up your total income with the total of their income. Interesting isn't it? Makes you think about the people you are with everyday and how much they effect your life. The main thought to keep in mind is that this can effect you positively and bring fortune into your life or negatively and bring h challenges. If you are trying to become a doctor it will be very challenging if the people around you aren't pursuing something just as you are. In that case, your best chances to increase your success will be to affiliate yourself with people who have ambition and want to be successful just as you do. Honestly, its even an asset to affiliate yourself with people who have already achieved success. When we go to school as children, we were taught by our teachers, right? To this day, I can guarantee you can remember certain things you learned from teachers who provided valuable information though it might've been a long time ago. I know I do! Back to example, your are ready to go to medical school to continue your study to become a doctor. Who can tell you how to apply for medical school and how to become a successful doctor better than your professor you is a doctor already! Great point isn't it? Who else can help you to become a successful individual than a person that already accomplished it. People who already accomplished goals are great to be around because they bring motivation and positivity into your life while you provide them with your shared ambition though you aren't as far yet. Your motivation is their motivation just as theirs is yours. It can go the opposite direction if you don't acknowledge the people you surround yourself with so please pay attention. I used to have not so good friends that weren't very motivating or ambitious. I chose to remove them from my personal life. I went back to college and met so many great people with goals like mine though they may not be the same goal as mine. I found myself happier and more humble. I still have a ways to go but we all people do. Even successful people acknowledge that that do as well because life is all about learning and becoming a better person.
Enjoy the rest of your day!

Clydia Santamaria